Phylicia Rashad's letter to her 21-year-old self

Dear Phylicia,

Romantic involvement distracts you and can blind you to what’s really in front of you. And what’s really in front of you? You are. You don’t even know yourself yet. You think you know and you want to assert that you do, now that you’re a certain age, but you don’t. What’s in front of you is a world of experiences beyond your imagination. Put yourself first and your growth and development, first.

There are long-term repercussions to what you are doing now. Everything you do, every thought you have, every word you say creates a memory that will hold you in your body. It’s imprinted on you and affects you in subtle ways - ways you are not always aware of.

With that in mind, be very conscious and selective.

With high hopes for you,
Phylicia

Change your language. Change your attitude.

Change your language. Instead of saying "I don't have time" try saying "it's not a priority," and see how that feels. Often, that's a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don't want to. But other things are harder. Try it: "I'm not going to edit your résumé, sweetie, because it's not a priority." "I don't go to the doctor because my health is not a priority." If these phrases don't sit well, that's the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don't like how we're spending an hour, we can choose differently.

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